How to be Graceful
Is grace really important?
Grace is so beautiful, alluring and quite charming, but can be hard to attain. However, once mastered, it can truly enhance your life.
Interested? Keep reading!
One of my favorite quotes comes from Drew Barrymore in which she cleverly says,
“Everyone is like a butterfly, they start out ugly and awkward and then morph into beautiful graceful butterflies that everyone loves.”
How true?! I mean, this truly defines my life to a tee! If I can be brutally honest with you, I still feel a bit like I am going through my metamorphosis. I don’t feel like you become your most beautiful self until you have gone through most of your life. This allows for true living and picking up experiences both good and bad.
Although you may go through great tragedies and the best moments in your life, the only thing that is constant should be doing it with as much grace as possible.
It is not something easy especially when you live in the real world and there are many hiccups and distractions to ruffle your feathers. These moments can steal your grace away and by becoming aware of it and fighting against it is the only way to keep your composure and gracefulness.
Grace is so important because one trait is that it makes others around you feel more at ease. You are not constantly degrading or putting too much pressure on them to be a certain way (to force elegance on others), but it is essential for truly being an elegant woman.
Another benefit of being graceful is that you go through your day effortlessly and with intention.
In this post, I am going to show how you can integrate more grace into your life and also how to work on it daily. By the end of it, I hope to want you to live your life with more grace every day. You can be the graceful woman you want to be!
What is Grace and how to be Graceful?
What exactly is grace?
There are a few definitions and I believe that all of them contribute to becoming a woman of grace. When I looked it up in the Mirriam-Webster’s dictionary, it states:
a : charming or attractive trait or characteristic
b : a pleasing appearance or effect
c : ease and suppleness of movement or bearing
But what I also think has a big impact on your grace is also its other definition:
a : unmerited divine assistance given to humans for their regeneration or sanctification
b : a virtue coming from God
c : a state of sanctification enjoyed through divine assistance
I find that having grace can be much easier to obtain when you have faith in something larger than yourself, in my case, God.
If you are not religious or do not believe in God, it is perfectly fine because grace can be achieved in other ways as well. I just like to mention it here because I find that it helps me in those tough moments where I feel like I just can’t handle it anymore.
Having grace is about living life with calmness and going through it without too much drama. I am not talking about real life problems, because we all go through it. I am mostly referring to the drama that is avoidable or something you would see on a reality television series.
I, personally, find that a woman who has grace doesn’t let the little things bother her.
In other words, she knows that everything will always work out in the end, no matter what. By having a little bit of faith makes this part much easier but really any woman can achieve this by letting go of the control that you “think” you have.
Go with the flow and do it with confidence.
What does it mean to be a graceful woman?
Being a graceful woman is one where you feel beautiful and important. Where you carry yourself with poise and feel that you want to become a better woman.
It’s about uplifting others around you, it’s about elevating each and every moment into something special and realizing how delicate life really is.
Being a graceful woman boils down to one thing – having passion for life and for the moment.
What does a Woman of Grace Mean
It can mean that you are naturally beautiful.
Have you ever seen a woman of a certain age and wonder what she does to look so radiant and beautiful?
I can almost guarantee that it isn’t a magic potion or an expensive serum.
She is most likely graceful and has lived her life with the same poise she carries now. It can be very evident when someone has true grace because the worry lines are almost non-existent.
She doesn’t stress the small stuff because she understands that she doesn’t have any control.
It’s hard, I am the first to admit that!
Just to let it go and accept what is coming and going. But after the first few times of practicing it and reassuring yourself that it will be okay, something life-changing happens!
You become the Graceful Woman
You develop this glow!
This glow is a combination of confidence and comfort. You are so sure of yourself
The confidence in knowing that what is put in front of you is with a reason and understanding that you will be able to face it. The comfort is how, although you have no control, that relieves some of the blame or guilty feelings.
You radiate from the inside out and it is completely obvious. Your graceful elegance carries with you your whole life and the famous quote by Coco Chanel makes this idea ring true!
“Nature gives you the face you have at twenty. Life shapes the face you have at thirty. But at fifty you get the face you deserve.”
Live gracefully and you will never need a facelift or anything to soften your wrinkles. The demeanor you choose will show up on your face.
What about your beauty right now?
Well, by being gentle and embracing grace, you will have that special quality that people yearn for.
People are attracted to it and want to be around it more. Your beauty will be defined as classy because you will always have that something “extra”.
Grace and Elegance: What is the Difference?
I get this question often, and it is something I even ask myself from time to time.
I like to think grace as a verb and elegance as a noun.
Grace is my gestures.
It is my demeanor and how I deal with issues at hand.
Elegance is my state of mind.
This is how I come across and how I would like to be remembered for. Although they are two different ideas, the two of them work hand in hand in harmony. It is something that you need both of and you can’t be elegant without grace and you can’t have grace without being elegant.
The graceful woman spends her days perfecting both. She enjoys the process and loves looking back at her day or week and seeing how many times she did the graceful act or left a situation the graceful woman she wants to be remembered as.
Beauty and Grace Quotes
These are a few of my favorite quotes that I reread when I need a little boost.
“Courage is grace under pressure.”
“Grace is available for each of us every day – our spiritual daily bread – but we’ve got to remember to ask for it with a grateful heart and not worry about whether there will be enough for tomorrow.”
Sarah Ban Breathnach
“Grace in women has more effect than beauty.”
“I believe God gives you the grace to do what you need to do.”
What does it mean when someone has grace?
A woman who has grace is usually a woman who has that extra-something that moves people. Or at the very least gets the attention of others. In the best way possible.
She makes everyone feel like a better person, and indirectly makes others want to be a better version of themselves.
It’s obvious that she has a quality that not many other women have, it’s hard to pinpoint exactly because every situation and woman is different. The most important quality if someone has grace is how they move throughout their day with effortlessness and making others feel like better human beings.
What does it mean to be a Graceful Woman?
You know exactly how it is when someone enters the room gracefully.
They have this quality about them that is alluring and you just want to talk to them.
You basically are drawn to them for no particular reason. It’s usually obvious before they even speak, they don’t necessarily even need words but just their gestures let everyone know what kind of person they are.
To have grace is to be easy on yourself and others. When things happen that might induce anxiety – the woman of grace is able to deal with it without falling into the trap of stress.
A very important skill to practice. One of the essential life lessons!
How to be more Graceful – to your loved ones
I believe it is important to show everyone you love grace, even more so than strangers.
It seems that we give the ones that are closest to us the least amount of respect, for the main reason that they will have to love us no matter what.
But in all honesty, don’t you think that is a silly reason?
Our family, if anything, deserves our best selves.
Our children should be seeing us in a great light like that and for them to see how truly good we can be, with hopes that they will pick up on it and then carry it out through their lives.
Showing grace to your loved one can seem hard, especially at first and especially if you are not used to doing it. However, the beauty of giving them a little grace can reignite a spark and your relationship can become more meaningful, more intimate, and much more peaceful.
A few simple ways to show your loved ones grace would be to
1) Listen to them.
Yes, I know, you already do. But I mean truly listen to them. Engage in conversations that are about them and what they are thinking. Even if you aren’t interested. Try to be.
2) Be thankful for them.
There are many times when it can be hard to be thankful for someone who is driving you nuts. I get it. But at the same time, without them, you would be a completely different person.
3) Tell your loved ones how you feel about them
This is especially true when they are positive feelings. Every person loves to be told how great they make others feel. I love it when my husband tells me that I do a great job with something. It means much more when it comes from your spouse too! Never let a moment pass you by to remind someone you love them!
4) Remember, they makes mistakes (just like you do!)
I know that sometimes we just want it done our way and will try our hardest to do everything ourselves. But that usually leads to resentment and other feelings that aren’t associated with an elegant woman.
We must lower our expectations to reality. There are times when we expect too much and demand too much from our family and friends. We think of something, we want it. But to incorporate more grace into your relationship, you will not point out to them the mistakes, but mostly focus on what good they did to, which leads me to my next point.
5) Be positive
This goes without saying for every part in your life.
It’s been proven that optimistic people have more friends, live healthier and longer lives and when faced with problems are able to solve it better. Being positive can really enhance your grace because let’s face it, no one likes a Debbie Downer.
It’s off-putting and can really bring down the atmosphere. Plus, nothing hurts more than when you think you did a great job only to be dismissed for it. Not one person likes that, especially when the person who is supposed to be cheering them on the most doesn’t believe in them.
How to be the Graceful Woman?
First, you need to believe that you will have it.
It is not a matter of if you have it, but when you will have it.
By changing your mind (which, when talking about elegance I feel like the mind is always the first place to start), and allowing yourself to truly embody gracefulness, it is much easier than you might think.
The second step to attaining grace is to remind yourself to be delicate. Not only delicate with your physical actions, but your emotional ones as well. You can ask yourself when you grab for things, are you gentle or perhaps a bit more rough? What do your gestures say about you or come off to others?
Practicing this side of grace can be easier because it is just a way to remembering to be more delicate with your outward self.
Grab things with ease.
Wash dishes more gentle.
Unleash your more feminine side by being more mindful of how you move.
Being delicate with your emotional actions can be about dealing with others with more humility and not overreacting.
The third step is to define it for yourself and then follow it!
Get out a piece of paper or do this on your phone. Define it to a tee. Make sure you clearly understand what your idea of grace is. Sure it can be to look like your idol, but what exactly is it that you like about your idol?
Be very specific with your intentions. Write down exactly what it is about them that really makes you want to be like them.
Who is a gracious woman?
A gracious woman is a woman who takes on the day with appreciation, love and an eagerness to experience the day, whatever it may be.
The gracious woman will also feel thankful for what she has been given. She also does this by respecting those around her.
She rises people up and builds them up to be the best versions of themselves. She has the ability to inspire others.
The most important quality of a gracious woman is that she shows herself grace and patience. When she does something that she regrets – she doesn’t beat herself up about it but rather learns from it and moves on.
Why is Grace Important?
Grace is an attribute that we should all be working on because it really helps others and also ourselves.
I can tell you from personal experience that it has brought me so much peace in my life, even when I am stressed to the max or when life throws me some pretty crazy lemons.
Not only does it bring a sense of peace and calmness to a much needed chaotic world, but it also allows you to see the beauty in the simple things.
From gestures to nature, you see the wonderful side of everything.
Grace is so important to work on it on a daily basis because not only does it help yourself be a better version of you, but it really shows others how amazing you really are. When you show grace to others, it is just natural for them to repay the favor and they will do the same to you.
Just think by giving someone a little bit of grace how it can change their day.
It’s essentially like paying it forward because perhaps your kind gesture of patience could make them do the same thing to someone else.
Just think of how nice our world would be if everyone showed a little bit of grace.
How to be Elegant and Graceful: When is grace needed the most?
This is a funny question because like everything in life, it is needed most when it is absolutely the hardest to keep.
We need grace the most when we are going through difficult times, either by ourselves or with our families.
But, just like everything else in life as well, anything worth having will never come easy. It takes practice, perseverance, the want to embrace it, and also the understanding of how it can improve your life.
Lost your job – need it to keep your composure.
Had a baby – the amount of grace that you will need to give the newborn along with everyone that decides to pop by.
Got a promotion – the grace you will need to remain humble and grounded Sick parent – the motivation to keep going and stay strong not only for your family but also your parents
It can seem that grace is needed the most when something bad happens but it’s not necessarily true, it’s just when something terrible happens, that is when our true colors come out.
Also, is when we need to be our strongest and sometimes when that is asked of us it can seem too much and we collapse. Having grace and believing that someone is watching over you can take you from helpless and hopeless to strong and faithful. Having grace reminds you that you aren’t alone, ever.
Graceful Woman: How do remain graceful when frustrated?
I will not sugar coat it. When your kids are being loud and not listening or your spouse and you are fighting, maybe even your best friend and you are at odds it can be very hard to keep yourself graceful and poised.
But let me tell you, it is not impossible. It’s like a muscle that needs to be constantly worked until it becomes muscle memory.
There will be times that you thought you would react a certain way, but by practicing your grace and poise, your first instinct might be a bit more elegant than you thought it would ever be.
Just like anything good in life, you need persistence. Practice, practice and more practice. If you want it — then you will figure out how to have it.
When you stub your toe, instead of letting our a swear word or lash out, try to remain composed.
How about when you sit down on a couch?
Do you sit gently or plop down?
Even think about when you brush your teeth, after it’s said and done do you clean up the sink and all the water spots so the next person has a clean counter? Yes?
Then you’re practicing your grace. It all is a matter of being aware of everything and taking all the opportunities to enhance it.
What does a Woman of Grace Mean: How to extend grace to others, especially when we don’t like them?
Another frequently asked question. It’s a pretty good one I think because there are times when we think they don’t deserve us or our time, especially if that means to actually be good to them.
I understand. I work with the public. I know firsthand how frustrating it can be to treat someone who either degrades you, looks down on you, or is just outright mean.
But striving to be an elegant woman means that you always take the high road.
If you’re like me, and I am going to say yes, then right after you are rude or quick to someone, then you always feel badly about it. Then this could affect your day and that is not a good strategy for living your best. You can extend grace to others by:
Listening to them.
As hard as it can be, or as much as you just don’t care, it is so important to truly listen to people. Children, adults, seniors, anyone! We all love to be appreciated and listened to and it is very obvious when we are being ignored. Try your hardest at first to be interested in what they are talking about and before you know it, it will become second nature.
This is another very hard, but very meaningful gesture. Giving someone eye contact can make everyone at the same playing field. Although some believe it can give feelings of superiority. I don’t necessarily think that, unless you are staring wildly at them making them feel uncomfortable. Do this with kindness and it will be noticed.
Keeping an open mind
In life, keeping an open mind to everything can help you understand others and where they come from. You don’t necessarily have to agree with it, but to realize that other beliefs are in the world can help you get along with more people. It’s always best to agree to disagree, but as long as you can understand where they are coming from is the main objective.
“Comparison is the thief of joy.”
We have a tendency to do this with everybody. People we like, people we don’t like. It just comes naturally to us and it really can hurt us. Comparing is useless because we all have different paths and journeys to where we are today. Some people have been more fortunate than others but it doesn’t mean it is better though.
A Graceful Woman is an Elegant Woman
Do you need to be both an elegant woman and a graceful woman?
Yes. I find that it isn’t necessary but that it is what makes it easier to be an elegant woman. Being elegant is about having grace in your everyday.
But the two walk hand in hand and it isn’t that you need to focus on just having grace or just incorporating more elegance.
By living with more elegance, grace will naturally just ooze out of you because you are slowing down and thinking of others around you.
So you might be asking yourself, why grace is so important and is it really something I need to be focusing on a daily basis?
Well after reading this, I hope you can agree with me that grace is certainly important and should always be stressed. It will not only better your life but others around you as well. You will look and feel younger when you adopt a graceful attitude because nothing is taken to heart and you will always be ready to forgive.
The face of that is someone who is serene, which means that naturally, their face will have a more youthful glow.
Grace is so vital to living with less chaos that it can be hard for others to practice, but every single person has the ability to do so. It is a matter of picking our idol and try our hardest to replicate them. Studying their movements and the little quirks about them. Being graceful is a powerful tool for an elegant woman to have in her arsenal.
Friday 20th of January 2023
You have shared wonderful information that can benefit everyone. I'll surely pin this and refer to it periodically. But a little request: edit carefully. The grammatical errors detract from your wise words and the piece would be stronger if it were divided into two or even three posts. This former English teacher/ grandmother wishes you every success with your important endeavor. Thank you and keep up the good work!
Thursday 24th of November 2022
Great material. Thank you 🙏
Sunday 11th of December 2022
Thank you Maricruz!
Wednesday 5th of October 2022
Thank you for the very informative and inspiring post. Loved it.
Sunday 23rd of October 2022
Friday 23rd of September 2022
Thank you for the clarification and enlightenment of the significance of grace and elegance in one's life. It is thought provoking indeed. It makes me realize that it requires awareness and a lot of work to be achieved. It is actually an ongoing craft on the self.
Sunday 23rd of October 2022
Thank you so much Winnie, I appreciate the kind words :)
Monday 6th of June 2022
Thank you for this ! Very informative and practical
Thursday 9th of June 2022
Thank you so much Hope! I'm glad you enjoyed it!