Skip to Content

Increasing Elegance: The Series – Understanding the Goal of “Increasing Elegance”

In this series, we will talk about increasing your elegance in different ways. Today, it’s about understanding the goal.

Everyone will have different goals, but the end result will be similar – to enjoy life and live more beautifully.

In this article, you will:

  • figure out what goal you want
  • understand how to enjoy a more beautiful life
  • live elegantly today
An elegant woman standing with a book in her hand

Understanding the Goal of “Increasing Elegance”

Living a more beautiful life is learning to increase elegance. This can be done by incorporating some simple, daily habits into your routine to help you feel better, look better and live better. This post is the first in the series of “Increasing Elegance,” where we will explore in-depth how you can increase your elegance and enjoy a more beautiful life.

Here at Elegant Living Everyday, I’ve always been interested in living a better life. Not always in the sense of having only nice things – because frankly, it’s not always possible. But rather taking what you do have and elevating it to something special.

I’ve received numerous emails from women who want to adopt a more elegant life, but feel either lost or worse, not good enough. That’s why I put together this series, so we can look into it together and work on elevating our lives to more than just the daily mundane grind.

In today’s part of the series, I am going to go into detail about understanding the goal.

Why are we doing this? Why is it important? What is expected? How do we achieve it? Where will this matter?

And any other questions that you might have.

Why Elegance?

Elegance is more than just a matter of style. It is a way of life. Those who choose to live elegantly understand that every moment is an opportunity to create a more meaningful life.

Whether you are getting dressed for a special occasion or simply going about your daily routines, it’s making sure that you exude an air of refinement.

Every detail is considered. From the way you carry yourself to the way you speak, is done with intention. This commitment to excellence is discipline and self-control. But it also brings a sense of joy and satisfaction.

Living elegantly helps you savor life’s finer moments and take pride in one’s personal appearance. It is an approach to life that elevates the ordinary to the extraordinary.

The goal of this series is to point out exactly how you can do this in your own life.

Related: Why is Elegance Attractive?

What is Your Definition of Elegance?

It is often seen as a quality that is external, something that can be observed in the way a person looks or carries themselves. However, true elegance and grace go much deeper than that.

It is an attitude, a way of being in the world. To be elegant is to be confident and self-possessed, yet humble and gracious. It is to move through life with ease and grace, enjoying the finer things but never letting them become more important than the people around you. Elegance is about having good taste, but also about having the wisdom to know when to put aside superficial concerns and focus on what really matters.

In short, elegance is a state of mind as much as it is a style of dress and a way of life.

Take time out of your day and write out exactly what elegance means to you. That way when you need to improve on different qualities, you will be able to.

What do You Think are Some Benefits of Increasing Elegance?

There are many benefits to increasing elegance, both in terms of how you view yourself and how others view you. When you dress elegantly, you convey confidence and sophistication. You also project an aura of expertise, which can be helpful in both personal and professional situations.

People tend to respond positively to those who project an air of refinement. They are more likely to want to do business with you or socialize with you. They may also be more inclined to trust and respect you.

Of course, the benefits of living elegantly are not just skin deep. Making a commitment to living better can also help you to lead a calmer, more orderly life. When you take the time to choose your clothes carefully and treat your belongings with respect, it can have a ripple effect on other areas of your life. You may find yourself being more mindful in general, and taking greater care with the way you live.

Ultimately, increasing elegance is about making choices that reflect your highest values. It is a way of showing the world that you are confident, discerning, and worthy of respect.

How do you Feel When You Achieve Elegance in Your Life?

Achieving elegance in your life is not about acquiring more stuff or showing off what you have. It’s about having a sense of style and being able to put together a look that suits you, whether it’s for your home, your office, or yourself.

It’s about choosing quality over quantity and being able to edit your life so that everything has its place. When you achieve elegance, you create a life that is beautiful and orderly, but also comfortable and inviting. You surround yourself with things that make you happy and that reflect your taste.

Your home becomes a haven, and your wardrobe becomes a collection of items that make you feel confident and stylish.

Being elegant is not about being perfect; it’s about creating a life that feels right for you. It’s about taking the time to curate your belongings and create a space that is both attractive and functional.

Most importantly, it’s about enjoying the process and savoring the results. When you achieve elegance in your life, you’ll find that everything feels easier and more enjoyable. You’ll be calmer and more organized, and you’ll be able to better appreciate the finer things in life.

How do you Grow Elegance?

Growing elegance is much like tending a delicate flower. It requires a gentle touch, a keen eye for detail, and a patient hand. Above all, it takes time. Patience is key when growing elegance.

Like a beautiful blossom, it cannot be forced. Rather, it must be allowed to develop slowly and gracefully over time. The same is true of an elegant demeanor. Just as one cannot rush the bloom of a rose, so too must one be patient in cultivating an air of refinement. With time and care, however, elegance can be cultivated in both people and spaces.

Those who wish to grow elegance must be willing to put in the time and effort required to make it flourish. In doing so, they will create something truly beautiful.

Can Elegance be Learned?

Elegance is often seen as something that is innate, something that cannot be learned. However, I believe that elegance is a skill that can be developed and honed over time. Just as with any other skill, it takes practice and dedication to become truly elegant. But the rewards of acquiring this skill are well worth the effort.

Those who are elegant move through the world with a certain grace and confidence. They have an easy way of carrying themselves, and they exude an air of refinement. They know how to dress and how to behave in any situation, making them the perfect companion for any occasion. In addition, they are often successful in their chosen field, whether it be business, academia, or the arts.

A woman holding a basket of purple flowers

What You Will Need to Begin

Though some may disagree, I believe that true elegance begins with a change in mindset.

Too often, people try to improve their appearance by surrounding themselves with wealth and luxury. But true elegance has very little to do with possessions. Instead, it comes from a place of inner confidence and self-assurance.

It is the knowledge that you are just as worthy as anyone else, regardless of your circumstances. Once you have adopted this mindset, the process of increasing your elegance becomes much simpler. Instead of desperately searching for the latest trends, you can focus on finding clothes and accessories that make you feel good about yourself. And as your confidence grows, so will your sense of style, and cultivating an elegant demeanor becomes effortless.

What Are Some Elegant Goals to Strive for?

Everyone has different standards for what they consider to be elegant. However, there are a few universal goals that everyone can strive for if they wish to be more elegant.

First and foremost, always strive to be graceful. This means moving with purpose and poise, whether you’re walking across a room or dancing on a stage.

Secondly, focus on being well-spoken. This doesn’t mean you have to be a silver-tongued poet, but you should pay attention to your diction and choice of words.

Lastly, always try to present yourself in the best light possible. This means taking care of your appearance and dressing in clothes that flatter your figure.

These are just very basic goals and what I would suggest is to get a little more detailed. I write down exactly what you want to become more improved on.

In Conclusion: Understanding the Goal of Increasing Elegance

As we go through the series, you are able to adapt these posts to your life.

In this season of “Increasing Elegance”, I’ll be focusing on how casual our society has become. I am really excited to be going into detail about how our society has gone a little too casual and how living as elegant women, we can find ways to elevate it. Find different techniques and habits to bring more beauty into our lives without sacrificing comfort and money.

In the next installment, I’ll be talking about what proper etiquette is at home.


Wednesday 27th of April 2022

This really resonated with me: "When you achieve elegance in your life, you’ll find that everything feels easier and more enjoyable. You’ll be calmer and more organized, and you’ll be able to better appreciate the finer things in life." Yes, that's what I want! Thank you, Jennifer, for so eloquently capturing in words the goals many of us are working towards.

Jennifer Lynn

Friday 29th of April 2022

Thank you so much Kathy! I'm so glad that you're enjoying it :)


Monday 25th of April 2022

I would love a series on how to be elegant, without feeling frumpy. I feel at 55 if I think I look elegant I look old. Enjoying your articles, glad I found you. Thank you

Jennifer Lynn

Tuesday 26th of April 2022

Thank you Fetema. I hope you'll enjoy the rest of the series! I am willing to bet that you look more elegant than you give yourself credit for!


Sunday 24th of April 2022

Enjoyable, interesting, and helpful. I am looking forward to the next istallment

Jennifer Lynn

Sunday 24th of April 2022

Christine, I appreciate the kind comment! I hope you’ll enjoy the next one! It means so much to me that you found this helpful


Sunday 24th of April 2022

Thank you. Very informative

Jennifer Lynn

Sunday 24th of April 2022

Thank you so much Odiline! I’m glad you enjoyed it!


Friday 22nd of April 2022

Beautifully done! Thank you. Marie

Jennifer Lynn

Friday 22nd of April 2022

Thank you Marie! I hope you’ll enjoy the rest of the series :)