This post was originally published on May 16, 2017 and updated on September 10, 2019
Always Overdressed – or not!
In today’s post I would like to mention jeans at a funeral.
I am not sure about you, but I have a huge problem with it.
This sad occasion is about remembering the deceased and showing them the utmost respect.
When I am at a funeral and I see someone who is too-casual in street clothes, it truly angers me because I feel like to put on something, what I would like to call anticipating-elegance.
In other words, the nicest you can look at the moment without going overboard, takes the same amount of effort to put on a beautiful dress, dress pants, or a skirt.
Call me traditional I guess, and maybe you could call me a snob, but frankly, I don’t understand it.
Fear of being overdressed
This brings me to today’s topic, and it is…
Why have we settled?
This can be about so many different areas in our society, but for today, I am discussing how we dress as a society.
I can’t believe how many people will dress down for being out in publisc. It’s a little scary. I’m not even referring to yoga pants, (although they are not the most elegant attire) but the full out pajamas!
There’s more than breasts and bums
When I watch the older movies, look at older pictures, or even people-watch the stylish older generation and I often wonder where that all went?
Since when did it become okay to dress in sweats?
Or why are bra straps and bellies deemed appropriate for the public’s eye?
The saddest part I find is that the youngest generation most often fall victim to it also.
These young ladies are learning how to dress and it’s frustrating because they are not learning how to accentuate their best parts of their body.
Rather, they are told what to show and how to show it.
There is more than just breasts and bum; there are the ankles, the wrists, the natural waist and my personal favorite, the collarbone.
There are so many more intimate and sensual parts on a woman’s body then just the two typical assets.
Especially if your like me, and your assets are limited.
But just because I have a small chest and behind, doesn’t mean I can’t be sexy or have anything to show off.
We are all very sensual
Look at yourself and see what parts are best to accentuate.
For myself, it is my collarbone and my waist.
So I work with what I have.
It is as easy as that.
Every woman is beautiful, every woman is sensual, it is up to you to find what works best.
We all have the capability to be drop dead gorgeous.
It really just takes a bit of time and a bit of attitude.
Which brings me back to my first point.
If only we didn’t have to show off 80% of our skin to be considered sexy.
When we are wearing clothes that are way too obviously provocative, then I feel like it’s boring.
If we wear something that whispers sexy and is elegant and shows off our own individual assets, whether it be great calves or tiny defined arms, then it makes people take a second look and in the best way possible.
They might not even know why you look so enticing (because it’s not obvoius like your cleavage hanging out) but yet you are irresistible.
This is the look that we should be flaunting.
It shows everyone and especially the younger generation that anyone can be attractive, not who reveals the most skin.
Let’s always dress up – Let’s Begin an Elegant Revolution!
Don’t get me wrong, wearing jeans can be stunning, but please not at church or at a funeral.
There is a reason why there is something called Sunday’s best.
Use your best judgement and always err on the side of overdressed.
It is easier and less embarrassing to be overdressed than to be under dressed and feel everyone’s eyes on you.
Let’s begin an elegant revolution.
Let’s anticipate elegance.
We need to wear clothes that accentuate OUR own individual assets.
Say no to sloppy and if you know your own grandmother wouldn’t have worn it out in her prime, then maybe you should reconsider your outfit yourself.
The only way we are going to change the society we live in is to start with small steps and it begins with us, today.
Everyday that you wear something that anticipates elegance and is a step up from casual, or something that you know is dressier than average, you are saying to the world, “I won’t settle.
I expect more because I deserve it. I am self-confident.”
Say no to Sloppy
At the same time, if you’re like me and don’t like the wardrobe of today, you must remain elegant as well.
It is not your place to be judging others because of their outfit of choice.
The only effective way to change someone is by doing it silently and showing them the way.
By embracing people as they are, being polite to them, and exemplifying poise they will see it and want it as well.
Accept them for them, if you are looking down on them because you are more elegantly dressed, then you are worse, you have missed the point and now you are just a well-dressed bitter person (far from elegant).
I may dislike our society for allowing pajamas in public or jeans at a funeral, but it is also not my place to judge the individuals for simply following what has become acceptable.
Trust me, people will notice.
People will honestly respect you more, this will rub off on others and they will want to do the same.
You might not even realize it, but when you are out in the world you are very impressionable.
People will recognize the self-assurance that oozes out of you and will want the same for themselves.
This is truly the only way we can see a change and set the bar higher for our too-casual society.
Take a stand against sloppy!