How to Make an Elegant First Impression
There are a few aspects to this that I want to look more deeply into. First there is the looks, how the common phrase is the first seven seconds they look you up and down and already making a thought about you before you even speak. Second is how you speak, I have already written a little about sounding like an elegant woman, but I want to stress how vital this is to whether people think you’re a interesting person or someone who has nothing good to talk about. For example, someone who is nosy or gossips a lot. Third is your gestures and how you come across. Are you gentle or rough? Will people remember you as a lady who is kind and thoughtful or possibly would think you’re rude and inconsiderate? These are all reflective of your demeanor. Sounds a bit harsh, I know. But it’s the truth. You do it. I do it. Everyone makes decisions of what they think of others in the first few minutes of meeting someone new. It could be right, or wrong but in their head perception is reality. How they perceive you to be is the person they think you are. It is truly imperative to remember how delicate the first time meeting someone is and why being elegant isn’t something you can cherry pick. You either fully embody elegance or you don’t.
You might like: How to Exude Elegance – When All is Going WrongSo let’s get on it with… starting with the looks.
How to make an elegant first impression: Look the partBefore you leave the house always do a once-over. Are you satisfied with what you see? You should come up with a mental checklist that you quickly go through before you leave your house or your car, pretty much before you go out in public.
This checklist should include:Hair – Is it the best you can get today? Does it flatter your face and your outfit? Does it need any touch-ups? Face – Do I need a quick touch-up with foundations? Are my eyelashes curled and lipstick on? Teeth – How is my smile? Is there any food left behind that could lead to a very embarrassing moment? Clothes – Are they soiled or stained? Should I change? Do I feel like this outfit flatters me the best? Is there any dog or cat hair I need to take off? Do these clothes make me feel elegant and want to embody the ladylike woman I am? Nails – Do my hands looked groomed? Are my finger nails dirty or in need of a filing? Is my nail polish chipped and need to be taken off or fixed? Are my hands flaky and dry looking? Shoes – Do my shoes compliment my outfit and who I am? Can I walk in them confidently? Are they cleaned and polished? Purse – Everything I need inside? Such as breath mints? Does my purse look great with what I am wearing? Does it need to be cleaned? Can I hold it without looking awkward? It doesn’t need to be so extreme.
It could really just be how does my hair look and do I have anything in my teeth that will distract from my smile? Done.The main thing to remember here is how you look will make a statement. Whether it is something you like or don’t. So why not try to always make an effort to make that statement as true to you as possible. We all have bad days where our best is getting out of bed and putting on clothes. But always make an effort and people will remember you for that. If you are rushing and don’t have time I find the most important features to pay closer attention to is your hair, face, clothes. Your hair doesn’t even need to be in any special up-do. As long as it is neat or in some kind of controlled style, you’re good. If you’re face is clean and glowing, anything looks good on you. Your clothes make the statement if you put in any effort or not. Are they wrinkled? Dirty? Stained? Just please wear something else.
How to make an elegant first impression: Speak eloquently and don’t ask too many questionsNo one likes a nosy neighbor. Whatever you do, don’t come across as someone who wants to know too much. By asking too many personal questions is a great way to get that reputation. The fact that you most likely just met this person means you don’t need to know anything personal about them besides their name. Even if you’re trying not to pry, avoid it because once your reputation has nosy on it, it is very hard to take off. People won’t trust you. It is not very elegant to be too personal too fast. That goes with you as well. Don’t let people know too much about you either.
Frankly, it is no one’s business. Keep it all to yourself.Speak eloquently, using appropriate words and if you don’t know what it means, don’t use it. There is nothing more snobby and off-putting then someone who just wants to use complicated words to make themselves sound smarter. It usually backfires. Sounding smart is important, but trying to sound like you’re above them is always disastrous. Remember that being elegant is more about them then it is about you. You want everyone around you to feel at ease and comfortable and that is hard to do when you are making them feel lost or stupid. When meeting someone for the first time, try not to speak very much at all. But do so without looking like your not interested or condescending. This is a very fine line to walk but leaving them wanting more is always a nice touch. Make sure to smile and keep your eye contact. Don’t just look interested in what they have to say (because most people can see right through your phony expressions) but actually BE interested.
Remember their name so at the end of the conversation you can politely leave saying…
“It was so nice to have met you (name of person) , it truly was a pleasure.”or
“I am glad to have met you ( name of person) , I hope to see you again sometime.”or…if you didn’t care for them
“Nice to meet you (name of person).”**Shake hands and keep eye contact. Remember to smile gently and be genuine! Even if you didn’t care for them, doesn’t mean you can’t be nice.