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How to Exude Elegance- When All is Going Wrong

So, it’s been one of those weeks. 

You know what I am talking about? Where you’re thinking one way and then the complete opposite happens?!

Which is fine, this is what happens in life! And unfortunately it happens to us all. But how is an elegant woman supposed to deal with it? How is she supposed to not let it get to her and fluster her?

I’ve been asking myself these questions over and over again. Thinking that the way I am reacting can definitely be better. I can be better!

So I have come up with a few different tips we can all use to enhance our elegance when things don’t go our way (which, let’s face it, is often!)


How to exude elegance when all is going wrong? 

Put things into perspective.

This is much easier said then done.

I understand. But when done can be a a very effective tool to keep in your elegant toolbox!

Life sucks sometimes. Sorry to be so blunt. But I only speak the truth!

Plain and simple. But life can be difficult, however the best way I found is to appreciate what you have at that moment because it really can get a lot worse.

So be thankful for what you have, realize that it can get a whole lot scarier and try to push through what you’re doing.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Know it will get better

Trust me.

We might be thinking at that moment, that we are so deep in a hole that it seems impossible to get out.

Well, it’s not. 

It never is. 

That’s also the beauty in life. We are some resilient creatures I must tell you!

A little example. We have a friend whose toddler won’t leave her alone, ever. He wakes her up all the time so she lives on a few hours a night. She is practically a zombie. I feel for her and when she was telling me this and how she is starting to hate her life (i.e. regret having children), I reminded her that life is full of seasons!

This won’t last forever, it might even end next week, but when knowing that this is not how the rest of your life is, usually helps to relieve the stress a little bit.

Let this be a learning experience, so take it and grow

I like to think everything happens for a reason in life.

Some people disagree, especially when they lose a spouse or someone young.

But don’t let anything happen in vain. Try to find something you can learn from it.

Be a better person BECAUSE of it.

So when something really is frustrating you, or your situation seems almost unbearable, instead of breaking down and giving up.


Learn how you can become a smarter person, a more accepting person, a gracious person. Even if we don’t want to admit it, there is always a silver-lining to every situation.

Put on your best face and smile

Yes, it’s like on Breakfast at Tiffany’s when Holly Golightly said you can’t possibly read a letter like that without lipstick.

I know it’s a bit superficial but sometimes, you need it to help you mentally. It’s like wearing matching lingerie. Technically, it does nothing for you. Mentally, it can make you feel on top of the world!

And for heaven’s sake, smile.

We all know the chemical changes that happen in our brain when we smile. It’s like we trick ourselves into believing we are less stressed and happier. Oddly enough, it actually works!

Try it, I promise after a while it will make you feel better! Also, people respond better to happier people, which will also make you feel a bit better.

In the end…

Life can get hard and messy.

But that is part of being an adult. We have to deal with things we don’t like. Just because something stressful happens in our life does not give us the right to throw our hands up in the air and give up.

Actually quite the opposite. These situations give us strength and shape our character. If we learn how to exude elegance when all is going wrong, then we can exude elegance when all is going right!

Look at life as a bunch of little lessons and tests. Because ultimately, it really is one big test.

Until next time

Keep it elegant!

Amanda Ahuto

Monday 18th of March 2024


I enjoyed reading this article.

Thank you.

Jennifer Merbello

Sunday 14th of April 2024

I’m so glad! Thank you so much :)