4) Relax, because everything will be okay This is one that every host needs to keep telling herself! Let it become your mantra! So you burn a dish, someone spills their coffee, the dog is so excited she pees on the floor. It happens, but the most important thing is that you are able to shake it off and laugh! Your emotions and your state is what will rub off on your guests. If you are upset and flustered, it will make the guests also feel uneasy and that is exactly the opposite of what you are trying to do! So, I give you permission, please, just relax and have a wonderful time.